Through the years, confidence has been one of my weak points. It’s been a struggle for as long as I remember. Back in high school, I recall saying “I don’t know” to questions I was a 100% sure of, just because I didn’t want to stand and make my point. The few times I did dare to try, I would get so nervous it’s unbelievable. I’d start to stammer, my palms would get sweaty and I’d sometimes forget what I was getting at.
It always hurt me and I would beat myself up (not literally) for being so lame. It especially sucked because I missed out on a lot of things by never asking questions or taking opportunities.
Anyway, this little sob story is just a little background to the actual gist. Affirmations.
One day, I decided to confront the problem once and for all. I was tired of being “slept on”. Exhausted. Worn out. Fatigued. Your girl was DONE.
So, I sought to fix it. Through a series of events and thoughts, I realized what I lacked was self love (I hope the pun in the title makes sense now haha).
One of the ways I adopted to fix this was through affirmations. Affirmations, according to Wikipedia, is the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment. There’s a saying that goes “be good to the universe and it will be good to you”. This is the same thing with affirmations. You say positive things to/about yourself. If you’re thinking I mean doing things like looking in the mirror and telling yourself you’re beautiful, you’re definitely right. I would wake up in the morning and say to myself “you’re smart, bold, beautiful, strong and worthy”. I went as far as writing them on little stickers and posting it round my room. I felt really cheesy doing this initially, but I tell you, having the courage to confront my fears by changing my outlook, changed my life. Literally. I became more confident, began to talk to more people, gave my opinions in class and did many more things I previously couldn’t. Now I’m not saying this is some magic trick that works in the blink of an eye. It’s a process. You have to believe it to receive it. May be slow, may be fast but trust the process. I still struggle with being expressive to an extent but now, I know I can conquer the world when I find the ginger(courage) to open my mouth.
So, these are some general affirmations you can start with and personalize to suit you.
I am bold, strong and beautiful.
I am worthy of love.
I AM SEXY!
I am more than enough.
I am good at what I do.
All is well with me.
I will finish school, it won’t finish me.
Remember, you have to believe it to receive it. Feel free to add in affirmations in the comments section, lerus be happy together!