Self love: ‘affair’mations.

By October 26, 2017The Writer's Box

Through the years, confidence has been one of my weak points. It’s been a struggle for as long as I remember. Back in high school, I recall saying “I don’t know” to questions I was a 100% sure of, just because I didn’t want to stand and make my point. The few times I did dare to try, I would get so nervous it’s unbelievable. I’d start to stammer, my palms would get sweaty and I’d sometimes forget what I was getting at.

It always hurt me and I would beat myself up (not literally) for being so lame. It especially sucked because I missed out on a lot of things by never asking questions or taking opportunities.

Anyway, this little sob story is just a little background to the actual gist. Affirmations.

One day, I decided to confront the problem once and for all. I was tired of being “slept on”. Exhausted. Worn out. Fatigued. Your girl was DONE.

So, I sought to fix it. Through a series of events and thoughts, I realized what I lacked was self love (I hope the pun in the title makes sense now haha).

One of the ways I adopted to fix this was through affirmations. Affirmations, according to Wikipedia, is the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment. There’s a saying that goes “be good to the universe and it will be good to you”. This is the same thing with affirmations. You say positive things to/about yourself. If you’re thinking I mean doing things like looking in the mirror and telling yourself you’re beautiful, you’re definitely right. I would wake up in the morning and say to myself “you’re smart, bold, beautiful, strong and worthy”. I went as far as writing them on little stickers and posting it round my room. I felt really cheesy doing this initially, but I tell you, having the courage to confront my fears by changing my outlook, changed my life. Literally. I became more confident, began to talk to more people, gave my opinions in class and did many more things I previously couldn’t. Now I’m not saying this is some magic trick that works in the blink of an eye. It’s a process. You have to believe it to receive it. May be slow, may be fast but trust the process. I still struggle with being expressive to an extent but now, I know I can conquer the world when I find the ginger(courage) to open my mouth.

So, these are some general affirmations you can start with and personalize to suit you.

I am bold, strong and beautiful.
I am worthy of love.
I am more than enough.
I am good at what I do.
All is well with me.
I will finish school, it won’t finish me.

Remember, you have to believe it to receive it. Feel free to add in affirmations in the comments section, lerus be happy together!


    Thanks for the encouragement and lesson.

  • Yoyin

    This is beautifulI, I feel very motivated πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ keep it up πŸ‘πŸ‘

  • reader in awe

    why so much emphasis on being sexy πŸ˜‚

    • Moradeyo Adeniyi

      Haha πŸ˜‹

  • reader in awe

    nice piece tho, i struggle with this also

  • Laylow

    Omg I feel so touched, this message is for me, God bless you, wow I know what to do now, I know how to carry my self now..
    I am strong
    I am bold
    I am your husband
    Etc sha anything can happen now mehn

    • Moradeyo Adeniyi


    • Savage

      She’s already married πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

  • Michael

    Totally relate to this, thank you for this…keep up the good work πŸ‘

  • Boboyen

    I am wise beyond my years.
    I am strong.
    I am exceptionally creative.
    I am blessed.

    I believe affirmations are better effective when based on scripture/rooted in Jesus.

    Fantastic piece Ms Mo’. You always deliver

    • Moradeyo Adeniyi

      Exceptionally creative, I like that one!

  • Agbonmiregun

    I am a winner
    I am a winner…

    • Moradeyo Adeniyi

      Yes, yes you are!

  • Diddy

    Courage at work….πŸ˜šπŸ‘πŸ‘ this is a masterpiece dear …. God bless you

    • Moradeyo Adeniyi

      Thank you ☺️❀️

  • Ololade

    Love that you are speaking about self – affirmations and it’s importance. 😍😍❀️
    I think it is also important to know that many people are as shy as we think of ourselves, different people just have different ways of interpreting these feelings… beauty of the world… DIFFERENCES!!✨

    • Ololade


      • Moradeyo Adeniyi

        Absolutely gorgeous ❀️

  • Samuel Lamina

    Nicely written Deyo. I believe I’ve found a wife