Hey guys, I’ll be starting a new series with my partner (Moradeyo) titled Struggles of Young Adults and it comes out every week. Sit back and enjoy this first write-up. Cheers


Self-esteem shows a person’s overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself. Everyone born of a woman has self-esteem.   A person’s self-esteem can either be low or high. A lot of people suffering from Low self-esteem tend to feel out of the crowd when they’re amongst friends or other people. In a bid to feel among, they create false lives for themselves, tell numerous lies and disgrace themselves over time. Other causes of low self-esteem can be bullying, failure, fat shaming and child abuse.

I remember a story my mum told of a girl who claimed her dad was a close associate of a royal family but then her dad was a farmer making ends meet for his family only. Eventually, the news went round and then armed gunmen wanted to attack the royal palace but they needed an inside man to let them know the family’s whereabouts. They, one day, kidnapped the girl’s father from his farm and took him for questioning deep into the bushes but he claimed he didn’t know anything about the royal family since he was just a farmer. He was beaten to death by the armed gunmen and his body was dumped in a nearby canal. She lost her father because she wanted to fit in to the society.  A popular Nollywood sequel “ALAKADA” also portrays

A lot of people in our schools, places of work and religious grounds live fake lives because they’re scared the world will laugh at their true personalities or their parent’s occupation or house. DON’T LET THE WORLD DICTATE WHAT YOU WILL DO OR WHAT YOU WILL SAY. It’s okay to be different. Your parents don’t have to be the richest. You don’t have to be the smartest.  The key is to appreciate what they’ve done for you and move on with a smile.

Here are a few signs that you are suffering from low self esteem

  • Social withdrawal
  • Anxiety and emotional breakdown
  • Lack of social skills and self-confidence.
  • Eating disorders
  • Inability to accept compliments
  • Exaggerated concern over what you imagine other people think
  • Self-neglect
  • Treating yourself badly but NOT other people
  • Reluctance to take on challenges
  • Refusal to put yourself first or anywhere.
  • Reluctance to trust your own opinion
  • Expecting little out of life for yourself.


Here’s how to increase your self esteem

  • Be fair to yourself
  • Mistakes and failures are part of life
  • Seek therapy
  • Become actively involved
  • Avoid negative environments
  • Look in the mirror every morning and say this “I am bold, beautiful/handsome and smart”
  • Public speaking can help also
  • Be happy always


Thanks for reading. Feel free to drop comments in the comment section and I’ll reply. Cheers

  • ayo collins

    Good words of high exteem

    • Ernest-Opara Chukwuebuka

      Thanks a lot

  • Amazing!!!

    • Ernest-Opara Chukwuebuka


  • Lamina

    This is amazing and beautifully put down, words for days

    • Ernest-Opara Chukwuebuka

      God bless Samuel

  • oyinda

    Lovely, keep it up!

    • Ernest-Opara Chukwuebuka

      Thanks a lot